So what's the glory in
living?
Doesn't anybody ever
stay together anymore?
And if love never
lasts forever
Tell me what's forever
for
Throwing love away and
losing their minds… good love is hard to come by…. Rafe VanHoy penned these lyrics in the late 70s and
Michael Martin Murphey launched it onto the top of the Billboard charts in
1982. I remember painting the inside of
our neighbor's stove shop on a cold February morning with my radio blaring Anne
Murray's earlier rendition of this song in Ephrata Pennsylvania in 1981. And the answer to VanHoy's question in 2015
is a resounding, "Not Many!"
Less than half of American households contain a married couple. In a world where "settling down"
was supposed to mark the end of promiscuity and a lifetime of "loving
commitment", neither of these are seen as relevant to the majority of
Americans. The Puritanical notion that
sex and marriage are inextricable has been vigorously promoted - often by those
who themselves live with "guilt" from their own polyamorous physical
pasts - as an ideal to which few aspire and even fewer uphold. According to the Centers for Disease Control
and Prevention nearly 1/3 of the entire U.S. population has a sexually transmitted
disease so the odds of a health based argument for fidelity is a modern
statistical fallacy. Nearly a third of
married men and women in Arkansas, Oklahoma, and California have been married
more than twice making the idyllic "lifetime" marriage illusion an
anachronism. In short, the nonsensical
"defense of marriage" campaign that alleged an apocalyptic end of
days result from this week's Supreme Court decision upholding the 14th
Amendment argument of equal protection picked a diaphanous fig leaf to mask
their pretense of intolerant fear.
Marriage is now available to all Americans regardless of sexual
orientation. And this is consistent with
the spirit and letter of the 14th Amendment.
The Supreme Court decision is not about sex. This decision is not about morality. This decision is about the FACT that the
Constitution of the United States affords equal protection and, in an effort to
legislate morality, financial incentives were created to coerce people into marriage
with the cunning cooption and manipulation of the theater of religious
endorsement. When it was passed on July
9, 1868, the 14th Amendment had two objectives: first, to define the principle
that people (regardless of origin) were people; and, second, to confirm that
the public debts we incur we're obligated to repay. It's ironic that, this week, we're demonstrating
that our efforts to legislate equal treatment of humanity and faith and
confidence in keeping the financial promises that we make are as inadequate now
as they were in the sunset of the Civil War.
And for those who actually pay attention, the same Bible that is used to
argue against homosexuality contains the presumption of slavery, instructions
on polygamy, and endorsement of the abusive treatment of those not like the
"chosen". In 1868, plenty of
end-of-days prophets railed against the notion that people with different colored
skin should be treated as people. Like
this week, the defense of bigotry comes most loudly from those who allegedly
take their cues from a man who encouraged tolerance for the other - including
bureaucrats, tax collectors and prostitutes!
Behind every smokescreen - particularly when religious
fervor is flamed into zealotry - there's usually a substantive issue that is
not being discussed. Why would States be
so desperate to keep marriages from happening?
Why would we be more concerned about homosexual lifestyles than Blue on
Black murders that seem to be epidemic in their frequency? Why would self-proclaimed christians feign
moral consternation about love and sex while staying silent in the face of
state-sanctioned murder perpetrated in defense of "our values"? I think that the answer is simple. We The People are predictably manipulated
into fearing the other for the economic benefit of a few.
Who loses economically if gays and lesbians marry? Well, for starters - taxation
authorities. Tax rates are lower for
married couples. IRA contributions are
greater if spouses use each other's earnings for maximum contributions. Transfers of assets in death are treated
differently between spouses. In short,
marriage conveys real economic benefit.
And given that marriage and affluence have been strongly correlated (a
correlation that is growing), extending marriage economic benefits to people
who chose a homosexual partnership means that a broader swath of the affluent
population may diminish tax collections.
Certain employers fear the possibility that they may have to extend
benefits to more spouses failing to contemplate that respecting the quality of
life of their employees could more than offset in productivity the cost of such
benefits. But chief among the losers are
those politicians who have built their power dynasties on preying on
"wedge issues" that conveniently divide "conservatives" and
"liberals". With the 14th
Amendment losses to abortion and marriage, how is the average Bible belt
extremist politician going to get elected?
How are they going to raise money?
How can we expect a democracy to function when we don't have the
"other" to fear and hate?
And that's the real economic driver. Fear and Hate. We've built economic systems that measure and
celebrate Fear. Tomorrow when the
markets take a hit, it will be blamed on Greece. This is the same Greece who hosted the 2004
Olympics where, in the name of defense from terrorism, a country was forced to
pay U.S. defense contractors exorbitant sums of money to "protect the
games" while funneling millions to "freedom fighters" who have
now turned their guns on their benefactors.
And we enrich our coffers on Hatred.
The U.S. Administration which swore to be the "most
transparent" in history has used hatred for Chinese economic influence to
craft the most secretive trade agreement in modern times paling against
Reagan's economic cold war with Japan in the early 80s. We haven't built economics based on
productive engagement but rather on separation and defense of scarcity.
Which brings me to the song.
Love lasting forever is and has been seen as an idyllic condition shrouded
in make-believe illusions of marriage, patriotism, and religion. Yet these very institutions in reality have
been the bastions of intolerance, fear and hatred. If we're ever going to answer the question of
"forever", we're going to have to see the rainbow not as an emblem of
tolerance against the tyranny of hatred but rather for what it actually is -
the diffraction of light that allows us to see that it takes all wavelengths to
illumine Reality!
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